Dear Captain Oblivious: Asking Her Out

Dear Captain Oblivious: Asking Her Out


Anonymous: There's this girl I see everyday at work. She's so beautiful and smart. Sometimes as I go by her desk, we have nice conversations about the whatever. I really want to ask her out, but I'm afraid of rejection. I'm afraid that she might turn me down and stop speaking to me altogether. I've considered asking her out to lunch, but I’m just too afraid. What should I do? How can I overcome my anxiety?


Capt. Oblivious: Anxiety is defined as a vague unpleasant sensation that is experienced in expectancy of some misfortune or negative outcome. Everyone from time to time had to deal with anxiety in some form whether it's before a job interview, giving a speech, meeting the parents of your significant other, telling your boss that she is wrong for not giving you a promotion even though you know you are more qualified and more experienced, etc. The key to dealing with Anxiety is to think realistically. If you ask this girl out, there are two possibilities, yes or no. Think about whether she will say yes and think about whether she will say no. If you keep a balance view, you will better. Now, if that doesn't help, just remember to take things slow.

First develop a solid friendship, then when the time is right, ask her out. You must establish a comfort zone (ala friendship). Because nine times out of ten, if she feels comfortable with you, she might say yes. Keyword: might. Might is better than absolutely not. Besides, if you have created a comfort zone with her, you will be better prepared to ask her out.

Dating is alot like entrepreneurship there is always a risk involved. If don't take the risk and you might miss out on some wonderful.