Thursday, March 31, 2005

He's Just Not That In to You or Maybe He really is...

As I await for Lunch hour to began, I began reading this book called He's Just that Not into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo . It depicts guys as being absolutely indirect in matters of relationship and committment issues. Trust me, guys can be very straighforward and direct when necessary. I know this because I happen to be one. A good one at that. I know what it's like.

I will present what chapter title says, which speaks for itself without the details, and I will post my opposing argument.

Here's are excerpts or rather the chapter titles from the book:

Chatper 1: "He's just not that into you if he's not Asking out"
My Argument: Just because he doesn't ask you out doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It could be that he's shy or intidimated by your presense. Or Maybe he's married or in a relationship. Or Maybe he has a terminal disease that makes getting into relationships virtually impossible.

Chapter 2: "He's just not that into you if he's not calling you"
My Argument: Again, he might be experiencing some phobia about calling you. He might think that you are not interested in him.

Chapter 3: "He's Just not that into you if he's not dating you"
My Argument: He maybe in a difficult emotion time in his life. A relationship could make his already problematic life even more complicated. Besides, friendship should exist before any talk of dating or a relationship

Chapter 4: "He's Just not that into you if he's not Having Sex"
My Argument: The guy has morals. He doesn't want/have to commit a sin(fornication) just to prove that he likes you.

Chapter 10: "He's Just not into you if he's married"
My Argument: Doh! Why breakup a happy marriage for something adulterous and forbidden. This chapter is probably the most sensible and reasonable of them all

I think this book is heavily biased and discriminating of the male species. Male Reader beware!


Captain O.

1 comment:

Diane said...

That is biased,but you have to remember the book was written by worldies, who consider having sex as a must if you're "involved" with someone romantically, married or no.

You,Kevis, are one of the very few guys I've met that are direct with everything.

I mean, Jeremy(for example) is direct but he drops a lot of sutble hints before he actually says what he wants.

I know that's frustrating for a lot of other women, but I can read his mind, so all he really needs to do is drop a hint and I can very easily pick up on it.

But it's not like that with most relationships. I know that for a fact.

Good entry.

Always Yours,

Diane