Dear Captain Oblivious: He's Just Not that Into YOu

Dear Captain Oblivious:


I am a sophomore at Winthrop University and there’s this guy, who’s a junior and I really like him. I had tried getting him to notice me all semester to no avail. So like last month, a friend of mine introduces me to him and we seem to hit off. We had a date and everything. I got his phone number and he had mine. Anyway, I had stage performance for one my classes and I invited him, but he didn’t show. Pissed me off sooooo bad. Tried calling and sending text messages. He did reply, but it was weeks later in the form of a stupid text message. It said something like "sorry for ditching you, something came up." At this point, I’m just confused and frustrated. I wanted closure. I just thought that he was a good guy. Starting to think otherwise…. Dude is starting to annoy me.

To Anonymous: I have one thing to say to you, though it may seem rather blunt and honest, get over him! If he is unable to show you any common courtesy or respect for that matter, then he is not worth the time, effort and heartache. You should invest your resources, if you have them, in someone that will appreciate you and show genuine courtesy. Just in case you want to know what true courtesy is: letting someone know that you will be late, telling someone thank you when they have done a favor for you, saying 'no thanks you' when someone offers you something, and simply showing consideration for others.

Looking from the other perspective, this guy could have a validated excuse for standing you up and not replying to your active dialogue attempts in a timely fashion. I encourage you explore this validation and if it’s still unfruitful, know when to cut the strings. Besides it’s only October, you never know what will happen. Maybe he’s afraid of girls, or dating. Maybe he has a deep dark secret and doesn’t want to get too close. Just be observant and rely on you gut instincts about the cutting the proverbial "string". I hope that answers your questions.

If you have an answer or question about anything at all, see Capt O. He knows all...sometimes. You spammer people, go away. I do not want free consulations about Viagra samples and products. The person who wrote Captain Oblivious has been renamed "anonymous" to safeguard true identity.


Capt. O